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Friends:The True Asset!

 Friends:The true asset!

 An amazing topic right? I hope I do justice to it!!

 Well, let me start with a quote, “Tell me who you go with and I'll tell you who you are"  as rightly said, but it is hard to get that one…

Friend, while defining ,is often misunderstood in many ways .. Example, this word is replaced by the best school mate/neighbor/college mate/ colleague/well wishers etc.. i believe that, there is a difference in being friend than being best on the role. Ex. if a colleague remembers your anniversary and gets a gift or share the favorite meal or a neighbor who is extra kind to take care when sick, is often misunderstood by the word called "friend". Extra attention and kindness is not sign board of being friends.

Importantly, most often the role of guide or mentor is misunderstood as frienship. Feeling sympathy and guiding does not guarnatee a friendship.. it might guarnatee a follower!. Yes, ofcourse, a friend can be a mentor / helping hand /cheer person etc.. but all these to be in two ways. not one way.. anytime if you are filled and directed by one direction .. than it is called mentoring. 

Friendship is suppose to be mutual! It is not listening and directing: it is sharing! Often we do not that.. because we feel that we might be judged by someone or feel the other person need not to know what you feel: or you may not feel that it is important that other person need to know. In the long run, once the guiding and mentorship completes, why would the other person come back if there is no emotional bonding? 

In my perception, a friend is someone who knows your craziness and still able to stand by you..! A partner in crime..  Sometimes, they are just your diary… ofcourse right. Trust and share anything without any filters with the feeling of being not judged but still judging is a part of friendship..No embarrassment on stupidity...Perhaps they are the biggest comfort zone after the mom's house..!

 Ain't this, sort of, dramatic? But that is alll about friendship too. Adding in colors.. but  it does not mean that you may need rainbow just because of many colors. Even a plain white is good as a rainbow!


 Well, what is the starting point of becoming friends??  Well, I do not know.. perhaps if you are able to hang out with someone for longer time, than the imagined timeline and no longer taking effort to impress, then it is called friendship.. if there is an effort?may be or no?? Think over..

Sounds weird.. but it is true right?? Why you need to impress a friend when there is a complete acceptance of who you are?

My favorite friendships story from history is  "Krishna and Arjun" than "Karna and Duryodhan.. !!" Krishna helped Arjun to shine and whereas Duryodhan made Karna as his Slave,so there is a difference! 

I would like to sign of this blog with a thank you note to all my friends who are there with me in all my times.. I owe you all a big thanks because you are the reason for who I am today, after my name!! 

Selfless help is indeed a best qualities of a true friend!! Feeling great and proud to see a friend standing tall is what makes the friendship, the best.!! Thank you.


Saritha Subramanian

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  1. KrithikaSeptember 23, 2020 at 12:06 PM

    Well said Saritha.
    I would disagree only on Duryodhana making Karna the Slave..they both shared a wonderful friendship..well there are different versions of the same story ,so let it.
    Loved your blog .

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  2. SarithaSeptember 23, 2020 at 10:43 PM

    Thank you, Krithika...Yes.. there is a quite version of story to it. Some says, it is a bold step by Duryodhana on his political side.. If Karna was not gifted warrior , I am not sure how Duryodhana would have reacted while he met Karna! Debatale..

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