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Becoming a Person of Influence

 Becoming a Person of Influence!

Brian Gregozeski , project director gifted me this book. When we completed the first phase of our project, he shared his appreciation through his collection of books.  When we been asked to pick,. I picked this one! I did not know why did I take this that time.. but it was much needed for me when I took over the role as people manager. Thank you, Brian for the book!


To Lead a team, the most important aspect is, one should be able to influence positively and  gain the trust of team member. Today, blog is on the book “Becoming A person of Influence”.

The book consists of Eric’s story, who had a complicated birth with physical disability. He is blessed with supportive parents. Mentoring, Motivating, Be a Model and Make him to reflect for others, is pretty challenging for special kids.. But this was quite easy for Eric parents as they were following the below principles.

  • Integrity:  Being Honest in a humble & polite way would be first asset. Integrity is not based on circumstances, credentials, Reputation. I like the mention that Reputation is like shadow.. it is  always grey area! So do not sell the Integrity to keep the reputation. Integrity makes the characters. If you want to win over trust, follow integrity!
  • Nurture: When you want to have people to follow you, you need to know them nurture.. I like the mention over here i.e Feeding a dog is the best way to create a relationship. The care while given in feeding is returned with loyalty, obedience and affection. Similarly care for the people . Keeping own requirement aside while care for other. Do not mix business while nurturing. Because while you do selfless nurturing, the business will run on it is own. Nurture with love , respect, sense of security and recognition. In return, the self of belonging and self-worth of individual will be raised. 
  • Faith: It is not about trusting fellow team members. It is all about making oneself trustworthy by keeping up commitments! Mirror yourself on the expectation. Once it is been taken care, the team would stand up to your trust.
  • Listen: Listen to people and understand their need. Show empathy , not sympathy..  there is a difference! Learn it and practice.. 
  • Navigate: Forsee the growth of team and guide them to reach the goal.
  • Connect: Connect with an individual with a common ground by giving a comfort zone. This essential to travel for longer time. 
  • Empower: Delegate the power and appreciate it openly. Show the confidence on them in open forum. Believe in them more than they believe themselves.. 

Well, I am not sure I implemented all these while I managed the team. But l learnt them and still practicing. These principles are not limited to people manager or any professional. It applies for anyone who wants to influence one persons’ good. Perhaps, you may perform the role of parent, sister, brother, friend etc..


Meet you in next blog..

-Saritha Subramanian

 

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